Bert
and Linda (not their real names) approached the podium as I was preparing to
speak to a group of retiring teachers. Bert smiled as he said, "We have a
question for the expert." Linda explained, "We're planning to move
closer to our two daughters and their families after retiring. What advice do
you have for making this move?"
Another
couple shared their quandary about moving to Florida for the warm climate or
being close to their first grandchild in Wisconsin. Obviously, relocation is on
the mind of many Baby Boomers as they make plans for retirement.
I
wish I had an easy answer for my attentive audience—"Five Steps to Live
Happily Ever After." Unfortunately, I don't. And I'm skeptical of other
experts who have a quick-fix solution to complex decisions. Instead, when it
comes to choices about relocation, consider the advice of authors Nelson and
Bolles in their book, What Color is Your
Parachute for Retirement?
Life planning comes first, residence planning second.
In
other words, "move toward what you value"—literally.
As
you envision your future life, consider your core values and mental, emotional, spiritual,
physical and material needs and wants. I recommend drawing a chart listing each
of these areas and then fill it in with what you know about yourself and your plans
for the future.
If
you have a "bucket list" of hopes and dreams, incorporate this into
your life planning. List purposeful activities and commitments that will bring
pleasure, engagement and meaning to your life. Also consider your strengths and
talents and the outlets available for exploring these further in retirement.
Once
you have a vision of how you want to
live in retirement, Bolles and Nelson suggest experimenting with where you want to live. "The only
way to really know whether a location has a sense of place for you is to become
an explorer; you need to be there and experience it."
For
the past 8 months my husband and I have been explorers; we're renting a downtown apartment in a vibrant small city.
This living arrangement is a considerable contrast to our small-town living where
"everyone knows your name." By having an explorer mindset, we're
learning more about what matters to us, which will inform our decision about
relocation.
Even
if relocation is not on your mind, you're not exempt from life planning. To
live intentionally, you need to make mindful choices. Be an explorer in your own community. Then decide to live where you
are by choice, not default.
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2016 Patrice Jenkins. All Rights Reserved.
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