Thursday, February 7, 2019

I wish I had...


For one day on a Brooklyn, NY sidewalk, a large chalkboard was displayed with the words "WRITE YOUR BIGGEST REGRET." Click here to view video.

At the end of the day, the word that showed up most is the regret felt for things not done. People didn't regret failing; people most regretted failing to try. Fear of risk and failure holds us back from pursuing dreams and goals. And we're left with regrets. Is there a way to manage risk and avoid regret? Yes.

Author Jonathan Fields, in his book, Uncertainty: Turning Fear and Doubt into Fuel for Brilliance, offers three questions to help you get over the fear of risk and failure.

One: What if I go to zero? 
Suppose your goal doesn't work out as planned. In fact, it is a big failure. What are you going to do now? How will you recover from this place? Describe your plan in detail. This is the worse case scenario. Once you see how you will recover, you know even a failure isn't the end of the world. When you know you can recover, you proceed with more confidence.

Two: What if I do nothing?
This question will help you understand how much this goal means to you. If the idea seems too scary, too risky, and so you ignore it and do nothing, how does this make you feel? Is doing nothing okay with you or will it show up on a biggest regret list a few years from now?

Three: What if I succeed? 
And now for the fun part—what if this crazy idea actually succeeds? How will this change your life? What will this add to your life?

Risk or Regret. The decision is yours. How will you respond?

"Your biggest failure is the thing you dreamed of contributing, 
but didn’t find the guts to do." –Seth Godin

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